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Post by xxx Amanda xxx on Mar 27, 2004 10:24:20 GMT -5
hello everyone
under 2 months ago a very good friend of mine, well my best friend, died in a terrible car crash. The driver was speeding and the car lost cotrol while coming off a motorway hit a tree and flipped on to its roof. my friend jenny 16 and her friend billy 19 were pronounced dead at the scene and after spending 3 weeks in intesive care the driver is ok. i have known Jenny since i was 3 years old and i love and miss her so much we have been through so much together, she was a beautiful girl with a smile that truly lit un any room, when i heared she had died the pain was almost unberable and even though nearly 2months have past it still is. so i want to ask you all to think of jenny, billy and their families in your prayers and i would also like you to pray for the driver although i will never forget what happened i would like to think that someday i will be able to forgive him. after all he has more to deal with than us all.
thank you all so much xxx
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Post by jadedsage on Mar 29, 2004 12:50:01 GMT -5
It is an awful thing to lose someone that you love, and especailly to something as tragically unecessary as someone being stupid. I lost my stepfather to much the same stupidity three years ago. The sorrow never goes away, though the pain dulls to something measurably easier with the passing of time. Please know that I am here for you, as I am sure everyone who reads your post will be as well. Should you need to talk, I know that SR has extended her personal email, and I'll add mine to that list if you need. Bless'd Be my dear and remember your friend with joy, as that's the finest gift we can give those who have gone to the Summerland before us. Her memory will shine with you and we shall remember.
Sage
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Post by xxx Amanda xxx on Mar 30, 2004 13:55:10 GMT -5
thank you wow thats made me cry, im sorry to hear about your stepfather. i no that over time the pain will become more bearable but do you ever get to a point where you just cant take any more pain, so much has happened this year. i hate it that its not even been 6 weeks and already everyone has stoped mentioning her and thinks that i am over it because im not breaking down in floods of tears every 10 seconds. The thing that i hate the most is that im starting to associate her memory with pain and saddness and she doesnt deserve that, i feel so guilty. oh dear im turning in to one of those people i hate who always complain about how terrible their life is, im turning in to an emotional wreck im sorry, thank you very much for your thoughts they mean a lot to me. have a good evening amanda xxxxxxxxxx
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Post by jadedsage on Mar 30, 2004 16:28:05 GMT -5
Of course, we all get to the point when we feel there is just no more that we can take. It's a natural and normal way to feel at this point in the grieving process. Your frustration at those who seem to have forgotten already is also to be expected. We wonder why it seems that other's seem to not feel like we do, but I can tell you, that I'm sure you are not alone. The association of her memories with sorrow will pass. There are several distinct and well documented stages to the grieving process. This too is one of them. It may be easier to pass this point if you have other friends who are able to sit and reminisce with you. Find folks who can re-enforce the happy memories you have buried in your own memories. What you need is a celebration of her life, with friends. Basically a wake. I think that might do you a world of good. Never think that you are whining my dear. Talking about it helps, and we are here for you. Having been there, I understand. Blessings my dear.....
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Post by sistergoldenhair on May 9, 2004 23:04:50 GMT -5
amanda,
i send you warm thoughts and hugs. it's not easy going through this by any stretch of the imagination. if you want to talk to me drop me a pm.
hugs, sgh
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Post by jadedsage on May 10, 2004 12:10:07 GMT -5
Hi Amanda. Just checking in on you. How are you doing with this?
Sage
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Post by xxx Amanda xxx on Aug 4, 2004 0:56:02 GMT -5
wow it been a long time since ive been on here. im ok thankyou, it would have been her birthday today 17 im going to lay flowers. thankyou all for your kind words and support hope you are all well brightest blessings amanda xxx
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Post by jadedsage on Aug 4, 2004 4:33:28 GMT -5
I'm pleased to hear that you are doing well. Bright blessings, Amanda. Remember......think of her with joy, for that is the gift she can still give you, and the honor you can show her.
Bless'd Be Rev Sage
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Post by sistergoldenhair on Aug 7, 2004 15:30:24 GMT -5
*HUGS*
the flowers are a very touching gesture.
drop me a pm if you need anything.
sgh
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Post by arewynn on Aug 20, 2004 4:23:29 GMT -5
warm thoughts and joy to you both here and in summerland
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